On October 13, 2024, Nollywood actor Kanayo O Kanayo took to social media to express his concerns regarding men’s financial responsibilities in relationships. In a candid video, he criticized the increasing trend of men relying on women for financial support, describing this reliance as “useless and dangerous.”
Kanayo began his address by articulating his disquiet over the current societal norm. “I woke up this morning and I was disturbed by a trend that I have found useless and dangerous,” he stated. He highlighted a troubling dynamic where men depend on their partners for basic needs, a situation that often leads to women feeling compelled to defend their partners. “Women want to defend their husbands so that whatever is happening inside doesn’t get to the outside. Sometimes it is detrimental to the progress of the man,” he remarked.
The seasoned actor underscored the importance of financial provision in family dynamics, asserting that men have a fundamental obligation to support their households. “Every man has a responsibility to his family; a man who cannot take care of his family is worse,” Kanayo declared. He further emphasized the gravity of this responsibility, stating, “A man who cannot feed his family has no need to use his private parts on a woman.”
In his discourse, Kanayo directly addressed women, urging them to reflect carefully on their marital choices. He warned that unwavering support for a partner who does not fulfill his responsibilities may inadvertently foster irresponsibility. “This is advice to women: know who you marry,” he cautioned. He acknowledged the strong emotional ties that often influence women’s decisions, but he stressed that “provision is key.”
Kanayo continued, illustrating the necessity of financial stability, even in times of hardship. He noted that while it is understandable for women to defend their partners during tough times, they should also recognize when a partner is not making an effort. “Even when he loses his job, and is always in the house and doesn’t go to struggle and hustle like other men,” he advised, women should not feel obligated to cover for a partner’s lack of initiative.