Popular clergywoman, Funke Felix-Adejumo, has advised married women to stop pretending that they do not enjoy intimacy with their husbands. In a viral video circulating on social media, she emphasized that women, just like men, have a natural desire for intimacy and should openly embrace it to strengthen their marriages.
While preaching in church, Felix-Adejumo expressed her strong views on the subject, stating that societal and cultural expectations have forced many African women to suppress their true feelings. “Who told us that women don’t like s#x? I like s#x. If I don’t like s#x, how will I have children? You are just pretending, you like s#x,” she declared.
She went on to criticize the traditional African belief that a woman should not openly express her enjoyment of intimacy, warning that such mindsets can create problems in marriages. “African cultures have told you a woman should not show that she enjoys s#x, otherwise they would call her a pr0stitute. The first thing is to disbelieve all that in your mind; otherwise, you would be causing problems in your marriage,” she added.
Felix-Adejumo encouraged married women to embrace intimacy with their husbands without shame. She urged them to change their perception and recognize intimacy as an essential part of a healthy marriage. “Tell yourself, ‘S#x is good! I want my husband.’ And when you are having s#x with your husband, don’t pretend and just be that missionary. Moan!” she advised.
She further stressed that intimacy is the highest level of connection between married couples, and women should actively participate rather than remain passive. “Don’t believe that African mentality. Let’s change it. The devil is using it to destroy marriages because that is the highest level of intimacy,” she stated.
In addition, she urged women to make their husbands feel appreciated during and after intimate moments. “Tickle your husband! Touch him when he is making love to you! When he finishes, tell him ‘Good job!’” she said, highlighting the importance of reassurance and affection in marriage.
The video has sparked mixed reactions on social media, with many supporting her message while others debated the influence of cultural norms on marital intimacy.
